Despina Vandi gave a comprehensive interview in which she spoke about her decision to divorce Demis Nikolaidis, with whom she has two children, as well as her relationship with Vassilis Bispikis. The popular singer, who was a guest on the January 1st episode of the show “Studio 4,” admitted that it is not easy for a woman to decide to divorce at 50 and confessed that at that age, she decided to fill the empty pieces of her soul. Referring to her partner, she compared his arrival in her life to a thunderbolt, emphasizing that she knew nothing about him. In another part of the interview, Despina Vandi discussed her collaboration with Notis Sfakianakis and also spoke about psychological abuse

Initially, Despina Vandi explained that at the age of 50, she decided that she needed to fill the empty pieces of her soul. “After I turned 50, I decided to fill my ’empty’ soul. It wasn’t truly empty, I just decided to fill the pieces that were empty. My life with my two children filled me in a huge way. My children were the most beautiful thing I did. After that, however, I wanted to do things for myself, to fill other pieces of my soul. And I made the decision because I said, ‘Okay, this situation is familiar to me, and nothing will change.’ The unknown out there is very scary; you don’t know what might happen, but simply put, when I fell in love with Vassilis and decided that I needed to change my life, I said, ‘I can’t,’ morally, because I thought it wasn’t going to work.”

Speaking about her relationship with Vassilis Bispikis, she admitted that as she was falling in love with him, she didn’t know where this new chapter in her life would lead her, emphasizing how difficult it is for a woman to decide to divorce at 50: “As I was falling in love and he was a person who made me smile and lit up my inside and outside, I decided to close a chapter of my life. I didn’t know where this new chapter would lead me, and even without knowing where it would take me. It’s difficult for a woman at 50 to make such a decision. You know, many times you say, ‘Well, I know the other person, they know me, I know their habits, one day they’ll be like this, another day like that.’ No, I don’t want that. I want all days to be good.”

In another part of the interview, the singer compared her partner’s arrival in her life to a thunderbolt, clarifying that she knew nothing about him. “Vassilis came at a time when I wasn’t even looking for what I was seeking. Honestly, it was a thunderbolt when he came into my life. But of course, there was a reason he came. I saw him for the first time at the theater in the play ‘Of Mice and Men.’ But I didn’t feel anything then, to be honest. Later, I invited him somewhere I was singing, and when I saw him, I said, ‘Oh my God,’ and for the first time, I felt it immediately. I didn’t know anything about Vassilis. I didn’t know he was married and had a child. I knew nothing about him. What I decided was to focus on my present. I try to keep myself from running ahead, because big sadness and big joy are directly related to expectations, which are certainly linked to the future. So, I focus on this moment and never look too far ahead. I don’t have much time, after all, I’m not 25.”

Speaking about her collaboration with Notis Sfakianakis, which ultimately did not happen, she said that the singer has an extreme personality, and one of the reasons she left was that he used the word “impose” in his statements. “In the case with Notis, it’s true that I felt very psychologically cornered. Because on one hand, I really wanted to collaborate, and everything was ready, but on the other hand, it was a life decision. I know that Notis is a great artist, he has sung amazing songs, but he is extreme as a person, and I knew that. One thing that made me leave was a verb in his statements, that ‘it is imposed.’ That, only that. It was a very turbulent period, and of course, decisions have their costs, but at some point, you can’t have the cake and eat it too. You can’t have it both ways, I’m not like that.”

The singer also referred to abuse, emphasizing that psychological abuse is harsher than physical abuse, and that many people don’t realize they are victims. “Right now, I love myself. I love and appreciate myself. Physical abuse is very harsh, but psychological abuse is even harsher. The scars on the soul are invisible, and you cover them all with a smile. Many times, you don’t even realize that this abuse is happening.”